Cash Gas Grass or Arse. Nobody rides for free!

This narrative on a bumper sticker I have seen far too often that for me is indicative of one of the reasons why I believe “Roast Busting” is a society problem.After my blog on the roast busters https://kiwipaulspoetry.wordpress.com/2013/11/10/roast-busters-a-society-problem/ I got asked a simple question, the gist was did I really believe it was. I am not sure exactly what part of my blog was considered to be incorrect however on reflection I am even more convinced of the role that society has in the Roast Busters saga. So what is my evidence. I remember a catchy little tune and the lyrics, I sung along the first few lines Follow me, everything is alright
I’ll be the one to tuck you in at night
And if you want to leave, I can guarantee
You won’t find nobody else like me and then suddenly I heard I’m not worried ’bout the ring you wear
‘Cause as long as no one knows then nobody can care and I realised I was singing a song that celebrated adultery, http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4JKAid8Z-rA. Now I am not that conservative, not these days and live and let live but I can tell you what I think about adultery and frankly it is a destroyer, enough on that and perhaps another blog. So the lyrics that are inserted into popular songs are often striking at the fabric of society. There is that kind of narrative going on right through the music industry, the lyrics that are more explicit are easy to deal with, but it is the insidious ones that sneak up on you. It is the insidious views in society that I want to talk about, the deeply entrenched sexist beliefs that are reinforced by the continual sexual bombardment that dominates our music industry, which merely reflects society.
Now what I am talking about here is the boys club, the comments and attitudes that I hear every day reinforce to me the belief that it is our society that not only allows and even condones the behaviour exhibited by the West Auckland Rapists I refuse from here on in to call them by any other name as Rapists they are. Now when I talk about society I accept that I am part of the problem so I am not standing on a pedestal here. But here is where it starts, and men please tell me you have never heard this before, you come up against a strong woman, perhaps in a position of influence and power, perhaps espousing politics you don’t agree with, then it turns out that she doesn’t have a husband . Straight away the speculation starts, often about her sexuality, but often enough these men know the cure! What she needs is a good shag! That would sort her out. This kind of attitude is the more shall we say sanitised end of society. What I see in my work with young men is deeply entrenched attitudes where they want to “root” every girl they know. As soon as they have “rooted” the young woman she turns from being a hotty to a slut or a ho. Where do they get these attitudes from? They are so commonly held and almost universal. When I hear these attitudes voiced I confront them. I tell the young men, that they are hypocritical and ask them to explain why they think such a way? I tell my young men in my family the truth, and I have told my daughters the same, most young men when they have a girlfriend have sex on their mind, they are focused on the prize. Now I say most not all but the prevalence of such an attitude that is often reinforced and celebrated by both their peers and their male relatives and older role models.
So I guess for me that is just one of the reasons why I say that the West Auckland Rapists are a societal issue that is deeply entrenched and prevalent in our society. Please disabuse me of this position if you disagree.

Roast Busters a society problem?

Roast Busters, Rapists, Misogynists, whatever you may want to call them. Why are we surprised/ this behaviour has been going on for years, if not centuries, getting girls/ woman drunk and men raping them. The only difference in this case is that they boasted about it on the internet, not in the boys toilets or playgrounds or smoko rooms. Depending on who you read there is a varied amount of opinions about the cause and the cure. The police have been universally castigated. Some of it warranted, some not. The woman interviewer has been tried and convicted without any evidence, some commentators like Michele A’court castigate the Police http://www.micheleacourt.co.nz/index.cfm?&action=blog#375 and the interviewer in particular. A pity because whilst she makes some very good points about rape not being a sexual crime rather a hate crime, she does her position a dis service in her ill informed about the kinds of questions that need to be asked of a victim.
Be very sure reporting a crime can be very traumatic, when that crime is one that is against a person then it is even more traumatic, it necessitates the reliving of the crime. This is very unpleasant and traumatic. The question to be asked about this is why? Well the rule of law necessitates it. Without the rule of law we have anarchy. The law should be innocuous, that is not value laden but it is not. I have been through such ordeals, personally, and vicariously where I have had to deal with the aftermath of these crimes and have had these kinds of crimes revealed to me first hand. I no longer work within the Social Work area as it is just too traumatic and it is very hard to dehumanise the behaviours and the victims and at times this means that your hear is broken as well….
Whilst we hear the call for the perpetrators to be brought to justice and I agree, my effort is put in to prevention. At the heart of this we have a society that is inherently sick. We see constant sexualisation of children and woman. We have a permissive society that allows absolute filth that masquerades itself as “entertainment” . We have many parents in our society that condone and indeed facilitate under age sexual activity in their own homes allowing “live in boyfriends”
The liberals promote a society of freedom of choice then bemoan the consequences of that very same choice. Try contacting Child Youth and Family about underage sexual activity. They will want to know whether the sex is consensual! How can a child give consent to sexual intercourse, they have no idea of the long term consequences of their decisions. This permissiveness is pervasive through out our society. Our secondary schools are evidence of this, children tell their teachers to get fucked with impunity, they offer to “knock them out” should a teacher have the temerity to challenge them in any way, shape or form about their behaviour.
Dare utter a word in Maori and the comments such as speak English, why are you using that language for, resonate through the room. At the heart of this are homes where racism is alive and well. Girls are hos, slags and bitches. Boys brag about their conquests and girls discuss loudly what they would like so and so to do to them and what they have done with whom. There are no boundaries and there are few consequences. Society needs to acknowledge that it’s permissiveness has a price and decide whether it is one that is worth paying.
In the meantime I challenge sexism, racisms and every other form of ism in society as they are a pox and a blight. I prefer to wait to hear the outcome of the Police inquiry into the interviews before I pass judgement.
As an aside I cam across roastbusters months and months maybe years ago and reported it to facebook who let it stand, perhaps I could have done more? I could not find it the second time and presumed it was taken down. Obviously not, unless you are part of the solution then a part of the problem you are. I thought I was part of the solution. ….